How To Rescue Yourself

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I was brought up to be dependent. I know that’s a pretty harsh statement. My parents didn’t have a sinister plot to instill dependency into me. They parented the way they knew best – they were very protective. I felt safe and loved growing up and I knew all my problems would be solved by my parents. 

Here’s the adult reality: I hadn’t learned, through trial and error, the skills needed to be able to rescue myself. I felt emotionally dependent on the opinions, wisdom and financial savvy of others. It took much stumbling, falling and emotional and physical heartache as an adult to learn how to rescue myself. 

Rescuing myself means knowing how to be proactive and independent enough to be able to live a fulfilled life based upon what I deem to be in my best interest. That doesn’t mean I don’t rely on others or seek out support and advice, it means I have the self-confidence to know what is best for me personally, professionally and financially. 

Here are some of the adult lessons I learned: 

1. Know what you want and why you want it.

What I mean is, know what you truly want to be, have and do with your life – not what others say you should want or have or do with your life. Look deep into your heart and soul and find your passion for life. Go for your dreams, hopes and goals – the ones that put a smile on your face and a flutter in your heart. 

2. Educate yourself and then carefully sift and sort.

Education, whether it is self-education or formal schooling, gives you the day-to-day tools to help make wise decisions. Education gives you options – you can figure out what people, places and opportunities will best serve you! I like to say that education gives you the ability to figure out what you don’t know so you can find the right people to teach you what you should know. 

3. Be proactive.

When it comes to making smart decisions you have choices – you can decide to either be proactive or reactive. Proactive is when you weigh your options and then take the appropriate action.  Reactive on the other hand means responding to a situation and often times leaving your fate to others. 

4. Ask questions and weigh your options.

Speak up and speak out! You can’t find out what’s happening if you don’t ask. Well thought out questions produce well thought out answers. The clearer the answers, the better able you are to weigh your options to help you make wise decisions. 

5. Trust your instincts.

Women are intuitive – it’s when we go against our “gut instincts” that we often have regrets. If something doesn’t “feel” right, it probably isn’t right for you. 

6. Surround yourself with wise advisors.

Like attracts like. If you want to become more personally, professionally and financially savvy, surround yourself with savvy people. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel! 

7. Be grateful for the challenges and lessons.

Successful women never, ever give up. No matter the ups and downs, no matter the challenges or failures and no matter how many times they heard “No,” they never give up on their dream. Challenges can make you stronger and wiser if you choose to learn the lessons and not repeat the negatives. 

Over the years, I’ve developed the inner-confidence to know what is best for my emotional, physical and financial future. I’ve learned how to trust myself and my judgment and that is a huge emotional boost toward achieving peace and contentment in my life. I now know how to rescue myself!

Copyright © 2010 Sharon Michaels – All Rights Reserved

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