Changing When You Don’t Want To Change

I’ve had a very emotionally trying past couple of months. My husband was in the hospital for five weeks, in fact he almost died. For the first time in my life I felt alone and vulnerable. I began to question my priorities and even my own emotional strength. 

Intellectually I understand that life doesn’t stay the same and it is ever evolving and changing. I also understand that we must go through our own personal life lessons and each lesson makes us stronger. Sometimes though, it is difficult to want to learn and grow when you’re in the middle of a crisis. There are periods in life when you just want to escape and not deal with reality the way it is. That’s where I was recently and maybe to some extent, I’m still in an escape mode. 

I like to be in charge of my destiny and know what to expect and when to expect it. Sometimes, I can even make mountains out of molehills when I allow my imagination to run wild. I’ve learned how to tame my vivid imagination and most of the time how not to “panic” when things seem to be out of my control. These past couple of months have been a test!

 Here’s what I’ve learned: 

1. I’m not indestructible. We have to have a Plan B, C and D. Planning for the possible “negatives” of the future isn’t negative, it is really an emotional, physical and financial positive. Having a well thought out plan is better than trying to wing-it when you are in crisis mode. 

2. We’re not invincible. Our bodies are not getting younger and they need to be treated with tender loving care. Making more time to rest, relax and rejuvenate is a must. My realization: I’m not as young as I use to be and I do need the emotional and physical support of others. Sometimes, the strong ones need the most support! 

3. Life doesn’t remain the same. Logically I know this, but emotionally I just wasn’t prepared to face reality. A week before my husband went into the hospital a good friend lost her husband, who was the same age as my husband and myself, to a massive heart attack. Life isn’t a sure thing. I have to embrace change in empowering ways even if I didn’t ask for or even want the changes. 

4. I need to be more prepared. Know where the passwords to all your online accounts. I thought I had a handle on things until I realized I couldn’t get into some of my own websites. Communication with those who share your life and your business is vital. Sometimes when you’re in an emotionally trying situation you can’t and don’t think as clearly as you normally can. Be prepared! 

5. Appreciate each second, each minute and each hour of each day because you’ll never have that day back. I realize now how important it is to appreciate life for being the precious thing that it is. I’ve also made a vow to myself to tell those I care about how much I appreciate them being a part of my life. Appreciation is powerful way to show love and gratitude. 

I’m reminded of this quotation from Brian Tracy, Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”  

I don’t mean this to be a depressing post but one that will get you thinking about dealing with your own life’s lessons. My husband is now home safe and sound and physically improving each day. Emotionally I feel as if I’m still recovering from the entire ordeal. Together, as a couple, we are wiser, stronger and ready to head positively forward!

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