Encouraging Others to Take Action

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Whether it’s encouraging children to clean their room or closing a business deal, understanding how to get others to take action is a powerful skill. Here’s an important fact to remember – When people take action they want to be able to BRAG about the results.

I’ve broken down the “encouraging” process into four areas:

1. Some basic principles of the decision-making process:
* When people make a decision they want to experience positive results.
* Most people are moved to action by either getting away from pain or going toward gain
* People will take action as soon as they believe it is in their best interest.
* People make decisions when they recognize and understand what’s in it for them.

2. Five positive communication “do’s”:
One: Remember, it’s about the other person’s needs, wants and desires.
Two: Come from a place of integrity, respect and honesty.
Three: Speak with sincerity.
Four: Look at the situation through the other person’s eyes.
Five: When in doubt wait until everyone involved can think clearly.

3. A decision-making truth – Anyone making a decision, even a small one, wants to believe they’ve made a good decision. Every decision-maker wants to BRAG about making wise choices.

4. People BRAG about their decisions for these reasons:

Benefit relates to how well a person believes they will be better off because of taking action. Unconsciously everyone is asking, “What’s in it for you?” Learning to effectively point out benefits will get a “yes” more often.

Relief relates to whether or not the person believes they will find an answer or solution to their problems and challenges. Relief is about moving away from something that is troublesome or problematic. When you can demonstrate how they will help find positive solutions, the other person is more likely to take action.

Action relates to a person believing that the action you’re asking them to take will move them toward a pleasurable outcome. Action is the moving toward something.

Gain relates to how making this decision will emotionally, physically, spiritually and/or financially enrich their life. People will follow your suggestions more often when they understand exactly what they will be gaining.

Please understand there is a difference between encouraging the action you want someone to take and manipulation. Assisting others to go forward in positive ways is coming from a place of shared cooperation and encouragement. Manipulation is only caring about your own wants and desires.

People will follow your lead when they fully trust that you have their best interest at heart.
 
 
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Making Success a Habit – Stopping the Sabotage Shuffle – MasterMind

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I’m Sharon Michaels. I’m an author, coach and mentor to women in business and honestly I’ve spent many years of my adult life sabotaging success. I know, hard to believe isn’t it?

Then about twenty years ago the proverbial light bulb went on. I made the decision to find out why I wouldn’t allow myself the thrill and satisfaction of enjoying success. I wanted to figure out once and for all why I kept doing what I call the sabotage shuffle.

I FIGURED IT OUT! I researched, read and wrote articles until I pinpointed why we often sabotage success – I’m talking personal, professional and even financial successes.

I’m conducting an 8 week “work-at-your-own-pace” MasterMind beginning Wednesday April 1 – May 31, 2015 to share what I’ve learned with you.
Come join us!!!

 
 
Let me ask you this:

* Do you feel as if you could be enjoying greater success but something seems to be stopping you?

* Are you having difficulty finding peace, balance and harmony in your life?

* Do you seem to yank the rug of success out from under yourself?

* Do you suddenly stop doing the positive things that create your successes?

* Are you a perfectionist and/or a procrastinator?

If you answered YES to any or all these questions, I invite you to join my Making Success a Habit – Stopping the Sabotage Shuffle MasterMind!!!

In this work-at-your-own-pace eight week MasterMind I’m going to share step-by-step the discoveries I made that have helped me recognize and conquer my own self-sabotaging habits and behaviors.

You’ll Discover How To:

=> Recognize and understand what may be holding you back.

=> Uncover your success values and beliefs.

=> Find the “something” you’re doing, saying, thinking or believing that feeds the unconscious “need” to make success a struggle.

=> Understand how “self-sabotage” affects success.

=> Positively control your success habits and behaviors.

=> Recognize your patterns of self-sabotage and put an end to those patterns.

=> Commit to success and then develop the habits to work consistently toward those successes.

=> Make friends with money!

I’ll be your success guide for this 8 week MasterMind – I will show you step-by-step how to stop yanking the rug of success out from under yourself and start achieving your personal and professional goals.

To read more and join us, please click on this link:
Sharon’s 8 week MasterMind beginning April 1, 2015

I’m looking forward to MasterMinding with you,
sharonsig
 
 
 
 
 
 
P.S. I probably won’t be offering this MasterMind again – most of my MasterMind’s are one time only’s.
 
 
 

10 Habits and Behaviors That Sabotage Your Success – Webinar

10 Habits and Behaviors That Sabotage Your Success
March 17, 2015

Sharon’s FREE Webinar for Women in Business

Be sure to turn up your speakers as you watch this short video…


 
Here’s your direct link to more details and to register:
http://sharonmichaels.com/webinars/10-habits-and-behaviors-that-sabotage-your-success
 
Join author and coach to women in business Sharon Michaels as she shows you how to recognize 10 self-sabotaging habits and behaviors that can have you making success a struggle. Learn how to recognize and begin eliminating these 10 destructive time wasters and energy drainers.

** If you feel like there are days you take three steps forward and two steps back, you’ll want to be on this webinar.

** If you find yourself procrastinating, you’re going to want to be on this webinar.

** If you seem to be always preparing but can’t seem to get started, you’re going to want to be on this webinar.

Register today for this March 17, 2015 “live” webinar and make sure you receive a link to replay and the follow-along worksheet.

Here’s your direct link with more details and to register:
http://sharonmichaels.com/webinars/10-habits-and-behaviors-that-sabotage-your-success
 
 
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Some Favorite Happiness Quotations

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I’m a big believer that happiness begins on the inside and works its way out. Are you giving yourself the gift of happiness?

Here are a few of my favorite happiness quotations and affirmations. You may want to print them off and look at them when you’re feeling a little down.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.” Charles M. Schulz

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” Mahatma Gandhi

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” Omar Khayyam

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.” Martha Washington

“Try to make at least one person happy every day. If you cannot do a kind deed, speak a kind word. If you cannot speak a kind word, think a kind thought. Count up, if you can, the treasure of happiness that you would dispense in a week, in a year, in a lifetime!” Lawrence G. Lovasik

“Every new day starts with happiness, is full of joy and ends with contentment.”

“I am kind, I am loving, I am happy.”

“I choose to be happy at the start of each day.”
 

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”
― Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them
 
 
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And, her newest paperback and Kindle 31 Days to Growing Your Network Marketing Business
 
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I’m Sharon Michaels and I teach you how to do business successfully. http://SharonMichaels.com
 
 
 
 
 
 
Disclaimer: I am the author of the paperback and Kindle ebook and an affiliate of Amazon.com – if you purchase the book through this link, I will receive a commission.

Are You Talking To Yourself with Respect?

Here is recent Entrepreneurial Women Radio show – I share my thoughts about the importance of respectful self-talk. How you talk to yourself is reflected in how you treat yourself. Over years of working with women in business, I’ve found that self-sabotage and self-limiting behaviors are closely linked to negative self-talk. Here are my 5 tips for focusing on positive self-talk. Be sure to turn up your speakers.

Check Out all Sharon’s Podcasts Entrepreneurial Women Radio on BlogTalkRadio


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Be sure to purchase your copy of Sharon’s paperback and Kindle book, 21 Days to Living Your Dreams on Amazon.com
 
And, her newest paperback and Kindle 31 Days to Growing Your Network Marketing Business
 
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I’m Sharon Michaels and I teach you how to do business successfully. http://SharonMichaels.com
 
 
 
 
 
 
Disclaimer: I am the author of the paperback and Kindle ebook and an affiliate of Amazon.com – if you purchase the book through this link, I will receive a commission.

Unique Selling Proposition – Infographic

How are talking to your target market? Does your target market understand what you’re offering and why they should do business with you?

UniqueSelling Proposition

 
 
Be sure to purchase your copy of Sharon’s new paperback and Kindle book, 21 Days to Living Your Dreams on Amazon.com
 
 
I’m Sharon Michaels and I teach you how to do business successfully. http://SharonMichaels.com
 
 
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Disclaimer: I am the author of the paperback and Kindle ebook and an affiliate of Amazon.com – if you purchase the book through this link, I will receive a commission.

Virtual Book Launch on Facebook


I’m excited to invite you to my Virtual Book Launch Party on Sunday January 11, 2015 on Facebook.

I’m introducing my newest book 31 Days to Growing Your Network Marketing Business – available on Amazon.com as a Paperback and a Kindle.

Join me anytime during the ’8′ hours – I’ll be posting something new every 15 minutes…

Here are the times:
1:00 – 9:00 PM EST
12:00 – 8:00 PM CST
11:00 AM – 7:00 PM MST
10:00 AM – 6:00 PM MST

Plan on fun, gifts for you, how-to’s, and much, much more. All done on this Facebook Event Page! You’ll want to RSVP “yes” so you’ll know exactly what’s happening!

Click here to RSVP “yes”:
Sharon’s Virtual Book Launch Party Sunday January 11, 2015

Here’s a short video where I explain a little more about the Party and read an excerpt from 31 Days to Growing Your Network Marketing Business:

Click here to RSVP “yes”:
Sharon’s Virtual Book Launch Party Sunday January 11, 2015

 
 
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Daily Words of Advice Infographic

I found this infographic on Pinterest and knew I had to share it with you…
I great positive and empowering way to begin your mornings. What you say to yourself first thing in the morning can set the tone for your entire day.
Have a Happy, Healthy New Year!

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I’m Sharon Michaels and I teach you how to do business successfully. http://SharonMichaels.com
 
 
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Eleven Hints for Life

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I saw this on the Internet recently and wanted to share.
Some good advice…

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

4. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose
it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been
missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other’s shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you’re the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

- Unknown

Etiquette in the 1920′s – How to Behave in a Hotel

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We can learn so much from history – this is from the book The Ladies’ Book of Etiquette published in the 1920′s now available in the public domain.

In America, where the mania for traveling extends through all classes, from the highest to the lowest, a few hints upon deportment at a hotel will not be amiss, and these hints are especially addressed to ladies traveling alone.

When you arrive at the hotel, enquire at once for the proprietor. Tell him your name and address, and ask him to conduct you to a good room, naming the length of time you purpose occupying it. You may also request him to wait upon you to the table, and allot you a seat. As the hours for meals, at a large hotel, are very numerous, it is best to mention the time when you wish to breakfast, dine, or sup.

If you stay more than one day at the hotel, do not tax the proprietor with the duty of escorting you to the table more than once. Request one of the waiters always to meet you as you enter, and wait upon you to your seat. This saves the embarrassment of crossing the room entirely unattended, while it shows others that you are a resident at the house. The waiter will then take your order for the dishes you wish. Give this order in a low tone, and do not harass the man by contradicting yourself several times; decide what you want before you ask for it, and then give your order quietly but distinctly. Use, always, the butter-knife, salt-spoon, and sugar-tongs, though you may be entirely alone in the use of them. The attention to the small details of table etiquette is one of the surest marks of good breeding. If any trifling civility is offered by the gentleman beside you, or opposite to you, thank him civilly, if you either accept or decline it. Thank the waiter for any extra attention he may offer.

Remember that a lady-like deportment is always modest and quiet. If you meet a friend at table, and converse, let it be in a tone of voice sufficiently loud for him to hear, but not loud enough to reach ears for which the remarks are not intended. A boisterous, loud voice, loud laughter, and bold deportment, at a hotel, are sure signs of vulgar breeding.

When you have finished your meal, cross the room quietly; if you go into the parlor, do not attract attention by a hasty entrance, or forward manner, but take the seat you may select, quietly.

The acquaintances made in a hotel may be dropped afterwards, if desirable, without rudeness, and a pleasant greeting to other ladies whom you may recognize from meeting them in the entries or at table, is courteous and well-bred; be careful, however, not to force attentions where you see they are not agreeably received.

A lady’s dress, when alone at a hotel, should be of the most modest kind. At breakfast let her wear a close, morning dress, and never, even at supper, appear alone at the table with bare arms or neck. If she comes in late from the opera or a party, in full dress, she should not come into the supper-room, unless her escort accompanies her. A traveling or walking-dress can be worn with perfect propriety, at any meal at a hotel, as it is usually travelers who are the guests at the table.

After breakfast, pass an hour or two in the parlor, unless you are going out, whilst the chambermaid puts your room in order. You should, before leaving the room, lock your trunk, and be careful not to leave money or trinkets lying about. When you go out, lock your door, and give the key to the servant to hand to the clerk of the office, who will give it to you when you return. You may do this, even if you leave the room in disorder, as the chambermaids all carry duplicate keys, and can easily enter your room in your absence to arrange it. The door should not be left open, as dishonest persons, passing along the entry, could enter without fear of being questioned.

If you see that another lady, though she may be an entire stranger, is losing her collar, or needs attention called to any disorder in her dress, speak to her in a low tone, and offer to assist her in remedying the difficulty.

Be careful always in opening a door or raising a window in a public parlor, that you are not incommoding anyone else.

Never sit down to the piano uninvited, unless you are alone in the parlor. Do not take any book you may find in the room away from it.

It is best always to carry writing materials with you, but if this is not convenient, you can always obtain them at the office.
In a strange city it is best to provide yourself with a small map and guide book, that you may be able to find your way from the hotel to any given point, without troubling any one for directions.

If you wish for a carriage, ring, and let the waiter order one for you.

When leaving a hotel, if you have been there for several days, give the waiter at table, and the chambermaid, a fee, as your unprotected situation will probably call for many services out of their regular routine of duties.

On leaving, ring, order your bill, pay it, state the time at which you wish to leave, and the train you will take to leave the city. Request a man to be sent, to carry your baggage to the hack; and if you require your next meal at an unusual hour, to be ready for your journey, order it then.

Well, what do you think? Times have certainly changed!!!